***DISCLAIMER: If you are a feminist this post may piss you off. You might want to not read it.***
Let me begin by being honest with you. I am not a feminist. I believe that men and women are relatively equal and the only thing I can’t do is become a penis model. I’ve never had a man tell me I can’t or shouldn’t pursue a goal. Furthermore, if a man had ever said those things to me I’d laugh and then ignore. I can’t recall ever being a victim of “The Man.” If you’re a feminist then more power to you! It’s just not a “me” thing. I am, however, a woman who believes there is a need for women to empower other women.
It boggles my mind to see how women can tear each other down. Women often get labeled as “catty” or “crazy.” There is a reason for that. I’ve seen Ms. Catty and Ms. Crazy in action. Goodness. Please. Stop it. Really. Just stop. Must we rip each other to shreds? Is it really necessary to be mean to one another? The answer you are looking for is no.
Show love to the women in your life. Encourage them. Build them up. Compliment them. It is so easy to do and costs nothing but a few seconds of your time. See a women on the street and like her hair style or maybe her shoes? Tell her. Smile at her. Say hello. Be friendly. It’s okay. It doesn’t hurt. I promise.
Some women feel compelled to see themselves in competition with other women. I don’t view life that way and I certainly don’t feel as if I’m competing with other women. I’ve started writing two books, haven’t yet finished either but I know women authors who are published. Do I envy them? Do I secretly hate them? Nope. I see them as inspiration. Actually, I see them as much needed inspiration. No bitterness allowed!
It is my belief that female friendships are powerful. If you have in your tribe a group of women who are confident, possess a positive outlook on life and are supportive then you’ve got it made.
March is about celebrating women and the is the first interview of four remarkable women that I’ll share with you this month.
Meet Renee and get a glimpse into her weight loss journey. Here she shares personal details of what she has gone through and her story is inspiring! While gastric bypass surgery isn’t for everyone, Renee has had a great experience with greater results.
Tell us about your background. Has weight always been an issue for you?
Weight has been an issue for me as long as I can remember. I was the chubby kid as a little girl and as I got older I was always the big girl. I think I was one of the lucky ones even though most people made fun of me. I had good friends that loved me for me and didn’t care about my weight.
Did your weight cause you to deal with any limitations? If so, what were they?
Limitations yes of course. I couldn’t keep up with the others when I was young so that left me alone a lot. It limited me in the men that were interested in me so more often than naught I was the third wheel.
At what point did you decide enough is enough? Was there a specific turning point for you?
Let’s see, enough was enough when my health started going bad and fast. I was diagnosed with high blood pressure put on two different medications. My legs were swollen terribly to the point I was put on another medication. I was pre-diabetic could barely walk to the end of the driveway and honestly wasn’t sure how long I would have and for the first time in my life I wanted to live. I had a future to look forward to not just exist.
You chose surgery to help with your weight loss. What led you to this decision? We’re there obstacles to overcome before surgery?
The decision to have surgery was actually an easy one. I had been researching surgery for 5 years or so and when all the health issues started my primary care provider recommended it. When I checked with my insurance it was covered…okay, decision made. But obstacles were not that bad. The worst was the waiting and the insecurity if I could actually do it. I had failed at weight loss so many times I was sure I would do something wrong to mess this up also.
Some people feel weight loss surgery is unnecessary and all one needs to do is eat healthy and exercise to lose weight. What is your response to those who criticize weight loss surgery?
I won’t lie, I was definitely not eating right or exercising but I had done that year after year with the same results. I would lose 30-40 pounds and then gain it right back. I couldn’t seem to be able to do it alone. I needed help and the surgery was the tool I needed. And that’s what it is. It’s a tool. If I don’t use it correctly, I don’t lose. It’s not a quick fix or an easy way out. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done but it has worked. All those medical conditions and medications are gone. I’m slowly building my stamina and can walk 20 minutes and still breathe. Best thing I ever did.
Talk about your recovery from surgery. Was healing difficult? Did you experience restrictions during recovery?
I took three weeks off for recovery and probably could have used another. Healing was painful as you have 5 incision sites in your abdomen and of course no matter how you move you are pulling one of them. It was a good week and a half before I even felt like moving much but we are told to at least walk a couple of times a day. That first week and a half I got to the end of the driveway and barely made it back inside to sit down. After that it got easier. I was making two laps and losing weight very fast. But getting very tired. The first week you only eat about a medicine cup full of liquid 3-4 times an hour. Second and third week you add in baby food and pureed foods but still no more than a few bites. By the fourth week you are slowly adding in soft food eggs and cream of wheat and corn beef were my go-tos but I couldn’t eat a whole egg. I couldn’t even eat the baby serving for cream of wheat.
How have your diet and eating habits changed since surgery?
Well I kinda started on this one in 6 but after the restrictions were lifted my habits changed in amount mostly. I never know if what I’m about to eat will settle well or not. One day I may be able to eat half a grilled chicken breast the next the same thing may make me sick. In the six months since surgery I have learned to replace potatoes and pasta with green beans and zucchini. I’m still not perfect and do have meals that I have the potatoes but I’m trying more and more to replace with the better choices. A typical meal now consists of 3-5 ounces of meat/protein 1-2 tbsp of veggies or potatoes or pasta or some combination of the veggies and carbs. A meal before consisted of 3-4 times the amount of all of that plus dessert. I can’t believe the amount of food that I used to eat.
To date, how much weight have you lost?
Since 8/28/18, I have lost 73.8 pounds. I have gone from a 26-28 size pantsand 3-4x shirt to a 16-18 size pants and a large -xl shirt.
Fashion Alert! I’m guessing you’ve shopped for new clothes, yes? That must be a blast! How did you feel trying on new clothes?
I actually only went shopping recently after I was given such a hard time about nothing fitting. I couldn’t believe I was in an 18. I had not been there in 15 plus years. And when I went to buy my wedding dress, the one we picked out the sales clerk said I don’t think this one will fit but we can get an idea. The feeling of that dress zipping all the way up is indescribable. I have never felt more beautiful and can’t wait to wear it at the end of the month.
Renee with her fiance, David.
Lastly, what advice would you give anyone considering weight loss surgery?
Advice that’s easy. Don’t wait. The one thing I regret is not doing it sooner. I feel better than I have in years. I have more energy and I’m enjoying life so much. Don’t let anyone talk you out of surgery. This is a very personal and difficult decision and one only you can make. Be strong and don’t give up it will all be worth it.
If you are interested in gastric bypass surgery, please visit WebMD for more information.
March is National Women’s History Month – a month to celebrate women. Exciting!
This is also a new beginning for The Smoking Squirrel. I’ve been away for quite awhile and it is time I return to the world of blogging. I’ve missed it!
This month I will share so much with all of you. I am most thrilled about the interviews I’ll be posting. You will meet four incredible women who I am blessed to call my friends. Each one has a fantastic story and I am sure you all will thoroughly enjoy meeting them. I’ll be posting one interview each week. Please follow The Smoking Squirrel so you don’t miss out!
The latest television shows, news channels, sports channels…these things don’t interest me in the least. What I care about is keeping my brain clutter-free or at least free from television pollution so I tend to stick with re-runs.
I can quote verbatim every episode of I Love Lucy. I can tell you just from hearing the title of an episode of Roseanne what happens during that specific show. Dick Van Dyke trivia? You can’t win. I know it all.
For years I’ve said that watching old television shows is good for you…for me…for all of us. They are relaxing. No violence, no profanity, no nudity. Just good TV. There isn’t a comedian alive today that is funnier than Jack Benny was. I can’t think of one single current television show that could possibly be more entertaining than watching a Dean Martin Roast.
Watching re-runs is, in my opinion, therapeutic and recently I read an article in Reader’s Digest that confirms my theory. A study conducted by scientists at the University of Buffalo have concluded that watching re-runs is energizing. Why? Because re-runs don’t require mental effort. They are familiar. They bring about comfort. We can spend time with our favorite characters and take a break from the “real world” which, let’s face it, is downright exhausting.
The next time you feel guilty for jumping on Hulu to watch Mr. Ed or Netflix to binge watch Andy Griffith, don’t. Watch the shows you love and remember it’s good for you. Catch a classic, have some laughs and let your mind and body relax. Watching Fox News? Glued to E checking out latest reality show? Quick! Change the channel! Find an oldie but goodie. Take the break. You’ll be glad you did.
So, I’m into rebates and surveys now. I’ve installed rebate apps on my phone and take surveys off receipts from store and restaurant purchases.
First, let’s talk rebates. These apps make redeeming crazy easy. They are self-explanatory and simple to use. I have an iPhone but I’m pretty sure both have apps for Android. Here’s the quick lowdown. You can click the links for more information.
CHECKOUT 51: FREE. Simple process. Rebates are updated weekly. You select the items you plan to purchase or have purchased , upload a photo of your receipt and done! Once you’ve accumulated $20 in rebates you can transfer the money to your bank account or PayPal account.
IBOTTA: FREE. A tad bit more complicated than Checkout 51 but are also updated weekly. These rebates are broken down by stores so you’ll have to search your store and then find the rebates you’re interested in. Once you’ve shopped you’ll then to need to verify your purchases. This involves scanning the bar code of the item(s) – bar code scanner is built-in to the app and then you upload a copy of your receipt or scan the QR code on your receipt – QR scanner also built in. Some of the rebates are repeats. For example, on staples such as eggs, milk, bread, etc. there are typically rebates available every week. Once you’ve accumulated $20, you can cash out.
RECEIPT HOG: FREE. This one is a no-brainer. All you do is upload photos of your receipts and that’s it. You earn coins for every receipt uploaded. This one is a fairly slow process but why not do it? Takes seconds to upload the photos. No big deal.
The camera features is built-in to all 3 of these above apps. This means you don’t have to give the apps access to your phone’s camera. Also, cash-out options for these apps include several different store gift cards so you don’t have to actually withdraw the cash if you don’t want to. So far I’ve been able to cash out on both Checkout 51 and Ibotta once a month. The rebates add up fast!
About the surverys…almost every store and restaurant has a survey request on their receipts. Do them. Some enter you into sweepstakes, some offer free items and others offer BOGO items. They take seconds and it’s like the lottery – can’t win if you don’t play. I also think your odds are a little better with surveys than with the lottery. I do them quickly on my cell phone all the time. Make sure you do the surveys as fast as possible. Most offers expire after 7 days and then you can’t do them.